You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind
Hello, and happy Sunday.
Have you ever heard yourself say, “That’s just who I am,” and then wondered whether it was still true?
Maybe you have always been the woman with a plan. The one who finishes everything she starts. The one who knows what she likes and rarely asks for anything different.
Then something shifts.
An interest you once loved no longer holds your attention. A goal you worked toward starts to feel less important. Something you dismissed years ago suddenly makes you curious.
And before you have even explored that feeling, you start questioning yourself.
But I already said this was what I wanted.
What will people think?
Have I waited too long to try something else?
This Sunday, I want us to leave a little room for a different possibility: you may be learning something new about yourself.
When an old choice no longer fits
A decision can make sense when you make it and still deserve another look later.
Perhaps you chose a routine around a busy household. Perhaps you put an interest aside because there was no time or money for it. Perhaps you genuinely wanted something then, and your priorities have changed.
You can respect the woman who made that choice. She was working with the circumstances, information, and hopes she had at the time.
You also get to listen to the woman you are today.
That might mean returning to something you miss. It might mean admitting that an activity has become an obligation. Or it might mean trying something completely unfamiliar, even if you are used to being the experienced person in the room.
You do not need to be unhappy with your whole life to want a change in part of it.
Give curiosity a little room
Sometimes we make a new interest carry too much responsibility.
Before we take one class, we want to know whether we will be good at it. Before we begin writing, we wonder who would read it. Before we try something different, we want a guarantee that it will be worth our time.
What if the first step could simply help you learn?
Borrow the book. Ask a question. Attend an introductory session. Spend twenty minutes trying the thing you keep thinking about.
You can enjoy something without turning it into a business. You can be a beginner without apologizing. You can try an activity and decide it is not for you.
An experiment gives you information. You are allowed to use it.
Change can be thoughtful
Giving yourself permission to reconsider does not mean every uncomfortable day requires a major decision.
Sometimes you need rest. Sometimes you need more information. Sometimes the same wish keeps returning, even after you have rested and had time to think.
Listen for the difference.
For decisions that affect your work, finances, or the people who depend on you, give yourself time to understand what a change would involve. Gather information, talk with the people affected where appropriate, and consider a manageable first step.
You can take a desire seriously while making a careful plan.
And when you are ready to explain a change, simple words can be enough:
“That worked for me before. I’m realizing I want something different now.”
A Sunday moment for you
Take a few minutes with these questions:
What do I keep saying I enjoy, want, or believe because it used to be true?
What am I curious about now—even if it surprises me?
What could I try this week without committing to the whole journey?
Choose one small experiment. Give it a little time on your calendar.
Afterward, ask yourself: Did I enjoy it? Would I like to do it again? What did I learn?
There is no required answer. The point is to hear your own.
Bring your present self
At Still Becoming Wellness, there is room for the woman who is reconsidering. The woman with a new interest. The woman who once felt certain and now has questions.
You do not have to arrive with a polished explanation for every change.
This week, I hope you allow yourself to notice what interests you—and follow one of those interests far enough to discover something.
With care,
Sharonda Lynn
Founder, Still Becoming Wellness
Mind | Body | Menopause | Self
You can honor who you have been and still choose something new.